One of my classes is asking me to gather responses to two very simple survey questions, I'm to get at least ten responses and then report on my findings. So if you want to help me with my homework, e-mail or comment me your responses (include your return e-mail), and I will reply with the disclaimer that basically says who will be using your answers for what, and that they will be anonymous.
I am taking a class at my university called “Men and Sexism" or "Feminism and Men” in the Department of Women’s Studies. Please respond below to the following questions:
1) What do you think sexism is?
2) Do you think feminism is an effective strategy for bringing an end to sexism?
Please fill in the following information:
*Name (you can make one up)
*Gender (and sex, if they are different than "usual")
*Race
*Economic background (For example, do you come from an economic background that you would consider to be: upper class, middle class, working class, or under class [poor]?)
*Sexual orientation
*Age
*Religious affiliation (if any)
*Highest level of education attained
*Response to question 1:
*Response to question 2:
I realize that the answers to this might of sort of biased if I know you folks, so if there are any of you that aren't really in the field of women's/gender studies, please answer! I'm looking for a broad range of answers.
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29.1.09
15.12.08
Writing for Femme's Guide
For those of you who don't know, I have been contributing to The Femme's Guide to Absolutely Everything since September. I don't like to cross post, and I've done a poor job of letting you all know when I post over there. You can read all my posts here. In lieu of timely announcements, an overview of a few recent posts follows:
In "Thigh Chafing: You Don't Have to Grin and Bear It" I laid out an armory of weapons with which to combat inner thigh chafing. Not a fun thing, yet it's a rather frequent event in the warm Southern climate.
Money Matters I recommended a blog called femme economics at Queercents.com, which deals with creating and maintaining one's femme image on a budget.
I contemplated whether butches or femmes are the "stronger" of the two, in Who's the Strongest?, but I came to the conclusion that we face the world together, holding each other’s hand for confidence and balance.
In the first of two posts I made in preparation for my Queer Theory term paper on femm e and femininity, I chronicled some of the events that lead to The Origin of my Femme Identity. This post was followed by my most recent post, where I came up with four answers to the question, "How Does Femme Queer Femininity?".
One of my goals is to start doing product reviews on makeup items. I've recently been working with mark. makeup and I'm falling in love with their commitment to portable makeup and on-the-go application. I'll be writing that soon, work schedule permitting. I'm working 40 hours this week... haven't done that in months!
In "Thigh Chafing: You Don't Have to Grin and Bear It" I laid out an armory of weapons with which to combat inner thigh chafing. Not a fun thing, yet it's a rather frequent event in the warm Southern climate.
Money Matters I recommended a blog called femme economics at Queercents.com, which deals with creating and maintaining one's femme image on a budget.
I contemplated whether butches or femmes are the "stronger" of the two, in Who's the Strongest?, but I came to the conclusion that we face the world together, holding each other’s hand for confidence and balance.
In the first of two posts I made in preparation for my Queer Theory term paper on femm e and femininity, I chronicled some of the events that lead to The Origin of my Femme Identity. This post was followed by my most recent post, where I came up with four answers to the question, "How Does Femme Queer Femininity?".
One of my goals is to start doing product reviews on makeup items. I've recently been working with mark. makeup and I'm falling in love with their commitment to portable makeup and on-the-go application. I'll be writing that soon, work schedule permitting. I'm working 40 hours this week... haven't done that in months!
19.11.08
Sugasmo! #152
This Week’s Picks
Sugarbutch Star: Maze - The Girl in the Red Dress
“She’s the kind of girl who brings out the worst in me.”
treat or … fuck
“He looked like I had just given him a car for Christmas and he gently took my hand and led me upstairs. ”
A Life Exposed and Amplified
“We were breaking the rules and being dirty.”
Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank
Editor’s Choice
I told him I loved him. He gave me a pen.
See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.
(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)
Erotic Writing and Experiences
Break On Through
Eiffel Tower
Fast Jenny
A Few Orgasms Before Bed
Geisha
Goodbye, my Love
lustlustlust
Mexican Girlfriend
Mixing business and pleasure
Mistaken Identity
Unblemished
Sex Advice
How to Have Anal Sex with a Big Penis
Is Fantasizing Wrong?
Is Sex Without Oral a Dealbreaker? You Decide.
Lasting Longer in Bed
NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Georgia Jones wants to go for a ride
HNT. Forest Nymph
HNT! (One more cherry, popped.)
Kamila - The Restoration
More from the knee socks series
PSA: Breast Cancer Awareness
Seductor
Sex Work
Dating Civilians 101
Sex News, Reviews, & Interviews
A New Twist on an Anal Sex Toy
On Tuesday, Vote for Equality
BDSM & Fetish
-3 Days
Bad Girl
The big dodge
Blind date: Impressions of a Dom
Dirty Boy
egg scissors
Do you want to cum? How bad?
Jake gets Punished in Spanking Movie
Kneeling In Style
Long Night in Thee Cow Shed
Marked: An Open Letter
Mistress by Proxy, part 2 : the slut
The New Bath Brush
Pimping him out
Pondering Piercings
Quickie
Sex Humour
Friday Poem: Achy Achy Cunt
Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
HNT-Time
Hubby’s Halloween Hit. Confession #167
The Space Between
Two women, two stories
20.10.08
Stopping the spread of hate...
The bloggers include Pam Spaulding of Pam's House Blend, Dorothy Snarker of Dorothy Surrenders, Grace Chu and Grace Rosen of Grace the Spot, Lori Hahn of Hahn at Home, Kelly Leszczynski of The Lesbian Lifestyle, Sinclair of Sugarbutch Chronicles, Riese of Marielyn Bernard, and Renee Gannon of Lesbiatopia.
The idea came about last Friday when Grace Chu of Grace the Spot logged onto Facebook and saw a few of her Facebook contacts openly campaigning for the passage of Proposition 8 via their status updates. “My initial reaction was to delete them from my Facebook contacts, because if you’re actively campaigning against my rights, you’re not my friend,” she said. “It totally ruined my morning.”
But instead of deleting her contacts, Chu decided to channel the power of the blogosphere to drive much-needed funds into the coffers of Equality California, the umbrella organization of the No on 8 campaign. Over the weekend, Chu assembled eight prominent lesbian bloggers to help get the word out and fundraise on behalf of Equality California’s No on 8 campaign. “Among the eight of us, we reach tens of thousands of eyes per day,” she said. “If we come together in a coordinated and unified effort, we could send a really powerful message, raise a ton of money, and make a real difference in the fight against Prop 8.”
Pam Spaulding of the highly influential and award-winning blog Pam's House Blend urges people to give to the No on Prop 8 campaign in the critical last days leading up to the election. Even if you have already given, it would greatly benefit the drive to defeat Prop 8 to give a little more. “We cannot allow an established civil right in the Golden State to be overturned at the ballot box. Every dollar you can give in these last in these last few days helps fight the dollars donated to enshrine discrimination into California's constitution,” said Spaulding.
Just last week, Equality California had released a bulletin that it was $10 million behind the opposition in fundraising. However, despite closing the gap this past week, there is still a ways to go. Furthermore, many current polls predict that Proposition 8 would pass if the election were held today. "There has never been a more important time for the queer community. This election will change our world for the better or put us back in the Dark Ages. It's not only critical we win for California, but for the rest of the country," said Sacramento resident Lori Hahn, owner of the popular lesbian family blog, Hahn at Home.
Like Sinclair said, In addition to California’s Proposition 8 on the ballot in just a few weeks, Florida has Amendment 2 and Arizona has Proposition 102, both of which would amend their state constitutions to define marriage as between one man and one woman - AND it would make all other unions equivalent to marriage null in the state of Florida (that means civil union, common law marriage, and even domestic partnerships!). Arkansas also has Act 1 on the ballot, which would forbid gay and lesbian parents - and any unmarried parents - from adopting children.
Florida is my home state and from what I have heard about the amendment, it seems like my fellow Floridians are going to pass it no questions asked because the wording is a little ambiguous. It goes like this:
"Inasmuch as marriage is the legal union of only one man and one woman as husband and wife, no other legal union that is treated as marriage or the substantial equivalent thereof shall be valid or recognized."
Are you hearing what I'm hearing!!! This would mean that if you were married in another state or country, you could potentially be barred from seeing your beloved in the hospital! Think about this, people! It takes away health insurance rights from domestic partnership agreements which are ofttimes formed between elderly couples due to some other legal quagmire. Suze Orman, the First Lady of Finance has endorsed the Say No on 2 campaign, predicting financial disaster because of this amendment. See what one of my fellow Christians has to say about this.
7.8.08
It's a bird, it's a plane, it's sugasm 143!
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15.3.08
Carnival of Feminists
Hey guess what! Pennyred rounded me up with some other wonderful feminist writings in the 55th Carnival of Feminists! Go check it out!
4.3.08
Sugasm 121 with sprinkles on top
Somehow I didn't get the memo that Sugasm 121 came out until I noticed it in my site traffic. My piece is "A Matter of Intent" under Thoughts on Sex and Relationships:
The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #122? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #122? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s Picks
Why I like sex blogs
“A few have changed the way I think about certain issues.”
A Date With Murphy
“No. NO! This is not fucking happening.”
Lust and Sassiness
“Some of the flames that your feistiness stoke within me lack subtlety, lack grace, lack restraint.”
Mr. Sugasm Himself
The Writer Strike
Editor’s Choice
An After The Date Love Letter
See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.
(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)
Erotic Writing and Experiences
Caught (pt 1)
Hot Screeching Excerpt - The Red Light Horror
Nocturne
Oh…Face
Showtime
Soccer Moms Get Hot Too!
To sleep, perchance to dream
What are you waiting for?!
When the Moon turns Russian Red.
Where No One Can Hear You Scream…
NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Catalina loves an HNT of Me (Photo by Altered Aperture)
Dahlia and Adriana Sage Bound
Don Quixote’s Package
Fetish Model Anastasia Pierce In A Latex Nurse Outfit. Yum!
The first porn film made by The Cam Lover
Half-Nekkid Thursday: What’s Cookin’ in the Kitchen
Half-Nekkid Urinater
Lela Star & Cali Logan
Meet my new friend, Satine Phoenix
Pornsaint Anna the Nerd
A Quick Simple Caning
Sex News, Reviews & Interviews
G-Spot: Real or Myth?
LA KinkBall Fetish Weekend
Mz. Berlin Finishes Slave Training With Forced Orgasms, And A MMF Threesome
Of Gracie & Mia & “John & Mary”
Palm Harness
Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
A Matter of Intent
“Are you ready to have your pussy rocked?”
Fuck this Consumerist Bullshit
Kangaroo Feminist
Swiss porn misses its peak
Top ten G-spot frisky fun facts
Sex Advice
Ask Miss Bliss-Why won’t she meet me for a date?
Ask The Jersey Girls
How to do it doggy…with style!
BDSM & Fetish
Admitted Cuckoldress
Bad connection
Public display…
Queening Stools : build or buy?
You get what you need
20.2.08
12.2.08
Fleshbot Sex Round-up
Tongue-Tied, and I, along with several others, have been featured this week in AAG's Fleshbot Sex Blog Round-up: The writers in today's roundup of some of our favorite moments from the sex blog scene sure know how to get a reaction using their oral skills ...
Erin with a capital oooaaaaahhh
This time, with only two fingers inside, I worked Erin's wet, open cunt and making things up as I went along - imagining rhythms and patterns to her delight. Swearing that I was not in fact a beginner, that I was indeed a seasoned veteran, she came, grinding on my hand and gave a hearty, healthy, "haaah" before she pulled my hand out, off and pulled me close to her, breathing. I sighed, "I love bodies. There's nothing that makes me more angry than when people who have trouble loving their shape." We agreed that was a travesty, and that we loved our bodies. They awoke me at 8:30 to take me back to my car so that I could make my way across the bridge and back to my warm bed.
- Miss Avarice speaks her mind
---
Tenderness
one time
after she came and came
a puddle of her pussy and sweat
on my chest, shoulders, neck, chin, cheeks and so forth
my tongue tingled in
tiny electric shocks and
my lips were swollen and red
for hours afterwards
- Tongue Tied Blue
---
Relying a bit too much on the kindness of strangers
Consequently, his hovering next to a shelf, coincidentally providing him an unobstructed view of the women in question, and idly fingering a movie case he had yet to glance at put him resoundingly in the ranks of the unwashed stalker. I was only too obliged to approach this critter on behalf of the store. I was not subtle in my route toward him and once I drew to within a couple yards of him, he began to pay assiduous attention to the movies arranged on the shelf before him. I wonder if anyone has ever fallen for such a feeble pretext of innocence. It wouldn't be me this night however. I told him he needed to leave immediately. He nodded and started sauntering toward the door, pausing to look at another shelf at one point. I got less polite in my demand that he remove himself from the property with alacrity. I was quite testy when I finally shuffled him out the door.
- Cast Upon the Thorns
Erin with a capital oooaaaaahhh
This time, with only two fingers inside, I worked Erin's wet, open cunt and making things up as I went along - imagining rhythms and patterns to her delight. Swearing that I was not in fact a beginner, that I was indeed a seasoned veteran, she came, grinding on my hand and gave a hearty, healthy, "haaah" before she pulled my hand out, off and pulled me close to her, breathing. I sighed, "I love bodies. There's nothing that makes me more angry than when people who have trouble loving their shape." We agreed that was a travesty, and that we loved our bodies. They awoke me at 8:30 to take me back to my car so that I could make my way across the bridge and back to my warm bed.
- Miss Avarice speaks her mind
---
Tenderness
one time
after she came and came
a puddle of her pussy and sweat
on my chest, shoulders, neck, chin, cheeks and so forth
my tongue tingled in
tiny electric shocks and
my lips were swollen and red
for hours afterwards
- Tongue Tied Blue
---
Relying a bit too much on the kindness of strangers
Consequently, his hovering next to a shelf, coincidentally providing him an unobstructed view of the women in question, and idly fingering a movie case he had yet to glance at put him resoundingly in the ranks of the unwashed stalker. I was only too obliged to approach this critter on behalf of the store. I was not subtle in my route toward him and once I drew to within a couple yards of him, he began to pay assiduous attention to the movies arranged on the shelf before him. I wonder if anyone has ever fallen for such a feeble pretext of innocence. It wouldn't be me this night however. I told him he needed to leave immediately. He nodded and started sauntering toward the door, pausing to look at another shelf at one point. I got less polite in my demand that he remove himself from the property with alacrity. I was quite testy when I finally shuffled him out the door.
- Cast Upon the Thorns
5.2.08
Brave, brave sugasm #117
The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #118? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s Picks
A Fable
“They start touching her, gingerly at first, wondering what magic is in her.”
Fiction: The Island Princess and the Monkeys Who Tie Knots
“You naughty, naughty, NAUGHTY monkeys!”
Sexy Is In Your Mind
“Sexy is an attitude and really all in your mind.”
Mr. Sugasm Himself
Chickipedia
Editor’s Choice
Take a walk on the wild side.
More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm
See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.
(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)
Erotic Writing and Experiences
Crave - Connect
Threesome on a golden afternoon
Whispers, after
Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
The female “gaze”
This Week’s Picks
A Fable
“They start touching her, gingerly at first, wondering what magic is in her.”
Fiction: The Island Princess and the Monkeys Who Tie Knots
“You naughty, naughty, NAUGHTY monkeys!”
Sexy Is In Your Mind
“Sexy is an attitude and really all in your mind.”
Mr. Sugasm Himself
Chickipedia
Editor’s Choice
Take a walk on the wild side.
More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm
See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.
(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)
Erotic Writing and Experiences
Crave - Connect
Threesome on a golden afternoon
Whispers, after
Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
The female “gaze”
18.1.08
and the nominees are...
Today was a little bit crazy - as you can see in my last post, my morning was really somethin' (for your northern people, that means it was very special). I ended up having some food and going back to sleep until 4 p.m. I called my boss to see if I had flex time available (i get half my shift off, paid, to deal with unexpected "personal issues") and it was, so I had another snack and went back to bed. I didn't sleep well so I'm hoping tonight I will have sweet dreams and deep sleep. Anyway. I went to work at 9:30 p.m., got stuck in traffic, started off the evening with a 15 minute call (bad!) and then we had a long meeting so I only took about 25 calls. On the way home, stopped for gas and cigarettes and got stuck in more traffic (continuous construction from my house to work - nowhere else!).
But anyway, the point of all that was to show that my nomination for The Lesbian Blog of the Year came at just the right moment! I don't like the idea of nominating myself, although it is allowed, but Essin' Em felt that I was deserving enough for her nomination over at The Lesbian Lifestyle. Wow. I'm completely flattered.
To nominate me (remember - only top 5 nominees have a chance!) click on the badge and put my link in the comments. As cool as it would be to win, I'm in good company. My pals Sinclair, Dylan and Rouge have all made the cut (did i miss anybody?). But you know, who can resist erotic stories and pictures, notes on butch/femme interactions, and gender theory? It would be nice to have someone who's not from the New York / Jersey area on the ballot.
There you have it, a blog born on a breeze, written on a whim, gets a nomination for an "of the year" award. Amazing.
By the way, my dozen peach roses from Autumn are in my large vase on the dresser near the sun. When she gave them to me, I told her the story of how when I was kindergarten I specifically asked my mother to paint my room peach. Not pink, or blue or some other primary color that I would be sure to know by then. But peach. So, they painted the room peach, my bed linens were peach, even a vanity table had been painted peach. So, this new gemini girl who doesn't really know me, picked an uncommon color that matched a story from my childhood. I think she's off to a good start.
But anyway, the point of all that was to show that my nomination for The Lesbian Blog of the Year came at just the right moment! I don't like the idea of nominating myself, although it is allowed, but Essin' Em felt that I was deserving enough for her nomination over at The Lesbian Lifestyle. Wow. I'm completely flattered.
"TLL is hosting the 2007 Lesbian Blog of the Year award. We are pleased to begin accepting nominations for this award until February 15th. At which time we will tally the nominations, and vote on the top five nominated lesbian blogs. The winner of the award will ... be listed as the 2007 TLL Lesbian Blog of the year on the TLL website. Good luck to all and keep telling your stories!"
To nominate me (remember - only top 5 nominees have a chance!) click on the badge and put my link in the comments. As cool as it would be to win, I'm in good company. My pals Sinclair, Dylan and Rouge have all made the cut (did i miss anybody?). But you know, who can resist erotic stories and pictures, notes on butch/femme interactions, and gender theory? It would be nice to have someone who's not from the New York / Jersey area on the ballot.
There you have it, a blog born on a breeze, written on a whim, gets a nomination for an "of the year" award. Amazing.
By the way, my dozen peach roses from Autumn are in my large vase on the dresser near the sun. When she gave them to me, I told her the story of how when I was kindergarten I specifically asked my mother to paint my room peach. Not pink, or blue or some other primary color that I would be sure to know by then. But peach. So, they painted the room peach, my bed linens were peach, even a vanity table had been painted peach. So, this new gemini girl who doesn't really know me, picked an uncommon color that matched a story from my childhood. I think she's off to a good start.
1.1.08
it's finally over
You know, I started 2007 with my work cut out for me. There was the problem of what to do about college. There was the not so little problem of my queerness. And there was the gargantuan problem of my commitment to a religious organization with which I was not being completely honest. I knew this year would be a challenge, and that it was! In February, some time before St. V's day, I came out to my mother - not for the first time, and that will be the last time, I swear! I drove home in March, speeding down the freeway, with my belongings crammed into every little space in my car. I called a friend on the way home, asking to stay over a little while, and that became my home. Except that before that, I needed to get a little bit of sex out of my system. First things first, you know. I got a job in April, and started this blog. I started school in June and in August I moved into a bedroom to call my own (the first in nearly two years, thanks to communal living). The first week of October, I had my first real kiss and have had none since, then I attended the disruptive, dismantling CBE workshop. November brought a trip to see my mother, and a talk about the prohibition of any of my partners from family gatherings. I also confirmed with my boss that I'm queer. Finally in December, I finished my first full semester back at school and I'm ever closer to graduating.
I have a feeling that 2008 is going to be the year of therapy. I'm surprised by how well I survived 2007 because that was one hell of a ride.
Here is what I want 2008 to hold.
1. Intimacy. After living in communal housing, after being bravely open with my dorm mates, and just leaving them cold turkey, I'm craving community. Intimacy between women friends, like Delilah described. I thrive on it and I always have. I want intimacy with lovers - I want to be truly known by them.
2. Health. I have utterly neglected my health for 2 years now, and I can feel it taking its toll. I need to get my hormone imbalance and my blood glucose problems under control. I need to swim and exercise so that my knee strength improves. I have oral surgery that needs to happen. My skin needs some TLC, especially on my face. I have to quit smoking. Have to have to have to. No more of this stopping until i feel like starting again business.
3. Activism. The reason I came home wasn't to spend my money and my time on selfish things. I came home so that I could be useful to my Christian sisters and brothers who are gay like me, and I have done nothing productive. At least, I don't think. Once I get myself grounded, that is my next step.
4. Heart. My heart is scarred, whether I want to believe it or not. I have not been a fan of talk therapy the past several years. When I was in Jr. High, I think it did me a lot of good. But since then it has caused me nothing but trouble. The "counselors" I have been to seem to build upon each other, rather than tear down the lies and the injustices that the others have served me. They have "prayed" over me countless times in hopes that it would save me from certain doom - the nasty H word. Homosexuality. I want someone who will affirm my queer identity, yet also shares my faith tradition. I think it's important to at least start my therapy with a queer person of ministry, since I ejected myself out of that position with next to no "processing" or "debriefing" work. I've been a rogue, alone, and I forgot that no woman is an island, least of all me. Long story short, I want to give my heart what it deserves.
5. Commitment. My school work needs my attention, and I don't want to hit this time next year and be wishing I had worked harder. It's only six more classes, max, and I need to make it worthwhile and salvage my GPA in case I want to do graduate school (although that thought makes me ill).
Above all else, my New Year's Resolution is to try new things.
On an entirely different topic, please note that while I prefer the company of women, I have never been entirely opposed to a polite, respectful, intelligent, naughty boy. These are hard to find. But I'm finding myself curious, and strangely confident. I feel like I can tackle just about anything, these days. Even that.
Lastly, you will be interested to know that I have tentative plans to be photographed as follows: nude, tied up in that red hemp rope and kneeling on a hardwood floor. And on a fleece rug. And in the kitchen on the tile floor. But which will it be? Dirty girls on a clean floor? or clean girls on a dirty floor? I can't decide which I like best.
Something's brewing. The wind is shifting for me. The air tastes wet.
I have a feeling that 2008 is going to be the year of therapy. I'm surprised by how well I survived 2007 because that was one hell of a ride.
Here is what I want 2008 to hold.
1. Intimacy. After living in communal housing, after being bravely open with my dorm mates, and just leaving them cold turkey, I'm craving community. Intimacy between women friends, like Delilah described. I thrive on it and I always have. I want intimacy with lovers - I want to be truly known by them.
2. Health. I have utterly neglected my health for 2 years now, and I can feel it taking its toll. I need to get my hormone imbalance and my blood glucose problems under control. I need to swim and exercise so that my knee strength improves. I have oral surgery that needs to happen. My skin needs some TLC, especially on my face. I have to quit smoking. Have to have to have to. No more of this stopping until i feel like starting again business.
3. Activism. The reason I came home wasn't to spend my money and my time on selfish things. I came home so that I could be useful to my Christian sisters and brothers who are gay like me, and I have done nothing productive. At least, I don't think. Once I get myself grounded, that is my next step.
4. Heart. My heart is scarred, whether I want to believe it or not. I have not been a fan of talk therapy the past several years. When I was in Jr. High, I think it did me a lot of good. But since then it has caused me nothing but trouble. The "counselors" I have been to seem to build upon each other, rather than tear down the lies and the injustices that the others have served me. They have "prayed" over me countless times in hopes that it would save me from certain doom - the nasty H word. Homosexuality. I want someone who will affirm my queer identity, yet also shares my faith tradition. I think it's important to at least start my therapy with a queer person of ministry, since I ejected myself out of that position with next to no "processing" or "debriefing" work. I've been a rogue, alone, and I forgot that no woman is an island, least of all me. Long story short, I want to give my heart what it deserves.
5. Commitment. My school work needs my attention, and I don't want to hit this time next year and be wishing I had worked harder. It's only six more classes, max, and I need to make it worthwhile and salvage my GPA in case I want to do graduate school (although that thought makes me ill).
Above all else, my New Year's Resolution is to try new things.
On an entirely different topic, please note that while I prefer the company of women, I have never been entirely opposed to a polite, respectful, intelligent, naughty boy. These are hard to find. But I'm finding myself curious, and strangely confident. I feel like I can tackle just about anything, these days. Even that.
Lastly, you will be interested to know that I have tentative plans to be photographed as follows: nude, tied up in that red hemp rope and kneeling on a hardwood floor. And on a fleece rug. And in the kitchen on the tile floor. But which will it be? Dirty girls on a clean floor? or clean girls on a dirty floor? I can't decide which I like best.
Something's brewing. The wind is shifting for me. The air tastes wet.
9.11.07
Female Femininity Roundup
There have been discussions over the past few months about becoming femme, what femme means, and how we manifest a femme gender with our bodies. It's been kinda scattered, so I have gathered everything I could find or remember. Please remind me of any missed pieces.
November
07 // Essin' Em: Femme VS Feminine: A matter of intent.
October
28 // Mortar and Pestle: The Subtle Body of Desire 111
12 // Sinclair: But what is femme?: a sourceless quote
09 // Mortar and Pestle: The Subtle Body of Desire 11
08 // Mortar and Pestle: The Subtle Body of Desire 1
September
29 // Miss Avarice: How do I Look?
28 // Lina: Email of Confession: Discovering the Femme
17 // Miss Avarice: Shifting Gears: Queer Standards of Femininity?
12 // Lina: Femme de la Crême: Portia, the glamorous
12 // Miss Avarice Invention: Purposeful Femininity
12 // Miss Avarice More Thoughts on Becoming Femme: Rejecting femininity out of fear
August
31 // Sinclair: Clarifications on Top Ten Things
28 // Essin' Em: When I try to Look Cute: Femme in varying degrees.
28 // Sincliar: Top 10 Things I <3 About Femmes
27 // Proper Effed: Butches and Femmes and Everyone in Between: I'm not femme but people think I am.
25 // Miss Avarice: Highs and Lows: Femme in varying degrees
01 // Shannon: I Bet Shane Doesn't Have This Problem: Femme Invisibility
July
28 // Miss Avarice Passing: for straight
June
07 // Miss Avarice: Femme-Ism: Femininity for Women
Ugh, this thing makes me look like I'm obsessed. I guess I am kinda. Lately. I don't know why it's such a tragic thing for me? I confess. I overthink and overanalyze everything. I got it from my Da...
Looking back through the blogs for this roundup I realized there's a butch roundup that I would like to slap together, and some things that need to be added to the Gender Commentary Roundup as well. Ugh. This is my inner librarian rearing her ugly head. And I just typed "lesbian" when I was trying to type "librarian". Freudian slip?
November
07 // Essin' Em: Femme VS Feminine: A matter of intent.
October
28 // Mortar and Pestle: The Subtle Body of Desire 111
12 // Sinclair: But what is femme?: a sourceless quote
09 // Mortar and Pestle: The Subtle Body of Desire 11
08 // Mortar and Pestle: The Subtle Body of Desire 1
September
29 // Miss Avarice: How do I Look?
28 // Lina: Email of Confession: Discovering the Femme
17 // Miss Avarice: Shifting Gears: Queer Standards of Femininity?
12 // Lina: Femme de la Crême: Portia, the glamorous
12 // Miss Avarice Invention: Purposeful Femininity
12 // Miss Avarice More Thoughts on Becoming Femme: Rejecting femininity out of fear
August
31 // Sinclair: Clarifications on Top Ten Things
28 // Essin' Em: When I try to Look Cute: Femme in varying degrees.
28 // Sincliar: Top 10 Things I <3 About Femmes
27 // Proper Effed: Butches and Femmes and Everyone in Between: I'm not femme but people think I am.
25 // Miss Avarice: Highs and Lows: Femme in varying degrees
01 // Shannon: I Bet Shane Doesn't Have This Problem: Femme Invisibility
July
28 // Miss Avarice Passing: for straight
June
07 // Miss Avarice: Femme-Ism: Femininity for Women
Ugh, this thing makes me look like I'm obsessed. I guess I am kinda. Lately. I don't know why it's such a tragic thing for me? I confess. I overthink and overanalyze everything. I got it from my Da...
Looking back through the blogs for this roundup I realized there's a butch roundup that I would like to slap together, and some things that need to be added to the Gender Commentary Roundup as well. Ugh. This is my inner librarian rearing her ugly head. And I just typed "lesbian" when I was trying to type "librarian". Freudian slip?
16.8.07
Gender Commentary
I needed to write tonight, but first I want to make sure and collect all of these lovely commentaries into one place so that I can get back to them should they come in handy later...
Aero Veracity: Checks and Balances
Bird on the Wire: Queer Politics
Miss Avarice:
1. A Brief Discourse on Femm-ism (See also - Quote from SB #5: femme is a version of femininity and is used not for the attraction of men but for the attraction of other women, which challenges the assumption that femininity is for men.)
2. Passing
3. Bottoming is Topping and Vice Versa
Miss Lina:
1. A Gay Shame
2. B/F Inherently Subversive
Sugarbutch:
1. Active Surrender
2. Questions on Binaries
3. From the GLBTQ Dictionary
4. Further Points on Gender
5. B/F Disrup. tion of Heteronormative Paradigm
6. Care and Feeding of a Butch
7. Gender Roundup
I was thinking tonight about how one anonymous comment on a scattered post about bottoming led (through a series of events) to a number of bloggers hitting an entirely different topic. With indignation. And of course it has become one of my favorite topics. Since Kay came back into my life a few years ago and reminded me what it means to truly allow oneself to emote and express gender in the way that is most comfortable. And look at me now. A freaking Women's Studies major. And a damn sexy one, too.
Boo!
Aero Veracity: Checks and Balances
Bird on the Wire: Queer Politics
Miss Avarice:
1. A Brief Discourse on Femm-ism (See also - Quote from SB #5: femme is a version of femininity and is used not for the attraction of men but for the attraction of other women, which challenges the assumption that femininity is for men.)
2. Passing
3. Bottoming is Topping and Vice Versa
Miss Lina:
1. A Gay Shame
2. B/F Inherently Subversive
Sugarbutch:
1. Active Surrender
2. Questions on Binaries
3. From the GLBTQ Dictionary
4. Further Points on Gender
5. B/F Disrup. tion of Heteronormative Paradigm
6. Care and Feeding of a Butch
7. Gender Roundup
I was thinking tonight about how one anonymous comment on a scattered post about bottoming led (through a series of events) to a number of bloggers hitting an entirely different topic. With indignation. And of course it has become one of my favorite topics. Since Kay came back into my life a few years ago and reminded me what it means to truly allow oneself to emote and express gender in the way that is most comfortable. And look at me now. A freaking Women's Studies major. And a damn sexy one, too.
Boo!
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